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The word ‘blind’ — in ‘blind spots’ — suggests that we have difficulties seeing these ’spots.’
What makes them difficult to see though is the fact that we are completely unaware of them. We truly, honestly think that they are not there at all.
‘Blind spots’ are usually areas where our greatest potential for growth lies. To expand on our strengths is good, yet it is mere improvement. Growth and transformation lies in these ‘blind’ areas.
The most difficult step is to make ourselves see that where we think there is ‘nothing,’ there is really a ‘blind spot’.
How can we identify our blind spots?
In this article I’d like to share with you two approaches my clients (and myself!) find helpful in seeing what we don’t see:
Approach no 1:
Observe how you react to feedback, to suggestions about your behavior. Look out for signs like:
Any of those might hint towards a ‘blind spot’.
Then learn to become aware and to understand if/that/how/why you are actually behaving in the suggested way, that your actions are actually driven by the suggested feelings.
This might be the hardest part, because you have to actively search for a proof that your self-image might have flaws. That takes courage, stamina, scrutiny, grit.
Approach no 2:
Another way to identify ‘blind spots’ – those ‘spots’ that we simply believe that are not there at all – is to listen to ourselves talk about others.
We are quite good at spotting the ‘blind spots’ of others: of our peers, our colleagues, our partners.
The thing is – we can only see and recognize what we know. We can only see in others what we know from ourselves; even if we think we don’t have this trait, this strength or characteristic.
Here is an example from my practice. One client, let’s call her Mary, tells me: “My colleague is always late. It really irritates me. I will not address it with him, though; it wouldn’t change anything. It really bothers me though, it’s as if I’m expecting that they’ll be late again and again. I make such an effort to be on time. Being on time is me showing respect to others. I would never be late.”
As a coach that’s what I hear:
We can discover ‘blind spots’ through the things we see or want to see in others.
Mary turns outwards, wants and longs for respect from colleagues. There is a chance that she does that because self-respect might be one of her ‘blind spots’. She can’t see and feel the respect she does hold for herself within herself.
How to train yourself to “Spot blind spots” in your daily life:
If all the information that you gathered on yourself proves the hypothesis – the next step is to accept that you are actually different than the image you created about yourself. Which is actually an incredible thing! Once you accept your current self, the energy you used to disguise is freed and a space opens up. You’ll be able to see things differently and thus act differently. Growth and transformation.
Now that you have the tools to recognize your blind spots and have the tips to work on these challenges, I invite you to practice them.
And you are welcome to write me back and let me know what breakthroughs happened for you from that exercise.
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